fix(active-memory): make setup grace explicit

extensions/active-memory/openclaw.plugin.json

@@ -40,6 +40,7 @@
         "enum": ["off", "minimal", "low", "medium", "high", "xhigh", "adaptive"]
       },
       "timeoutMs": { "type": "integer", "minimum": 250, "maximum": 120000 },
+      "setupGraceTimeoutMs": { "type": "integer", "minimum": 0, "maximum": 30000 },
       "queryMode": {
         "type": "string",
         "enum": ["message", "recent", "full"]
@@ -116,6 +117,10 @@
     "timeoutMs": {
       "label": "Timeout (ms)"
     },
+    "setupGraceTimeoutMs": {
+      "label": "Setup Grace Timeout (ms)",
+      "help": "Advanced: extra blocking budget for cold embedded-run setup before the recall timeout is considered exhausted. Defaults to 0 so timeoutMs remains the main-lane hook budget unless you opt in."
+    },
     "queryMode": {
       "label": "Query Mode",
       "help": "Choose whether the blocking memory sub-agent sees only the latest user message, a small recent tail, or the full conversation."